Comments on: Integrity vs Special Pleading

By: AE

AE — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 14:11:36 +0000

Hmmm
I have just noticed that I have spent so long reading these fascinating posts that I have missed the only 30mins of TV I consider to be compulsary viewing each week.

C’est la vie … hopefully the 30mins has been well invested…

This reading has been quite fascinating and helping unravel some complications in my life, the source of which I am becoming increasingly aware …

I am blessed to have a father who is a great model of “integrity” – in most senses – none of us are perfect

My recent life circumstances have “accidentally” led me into a “way of being” where I decided “integrity” was the only possible way forward … fortunately, I had a great role model in my father (who clearly is not incidental to my new “way of being”)

Since starting this new way of being, I have had enormous problems … partly because I have kind of expected this “way of being” to be reciprocated amongst those in my life (family, work, social) – clearly an unreasonable expectation. I have only just understood what has been going on here, so am doing a sanity check on that expectation and pulling back on my (extrovert) responses to the extraordinary lack of integrity I experience in my every day life. But, as i said earlier, I think I am working in the worse place imaginable to be on this journey!

But I could never have imagined that luminaries such as Erhard, Saffron & Co would writing 129 page documents on such a subject. It shows (I imagine??) that this “common-sense” concept has almost been lost in 21st century western society?

All my comments tonight have been written “from the heart and off the cuff” – not particularly well-considered. But I look forward to your response.

Thanks again for providing the forum for this stuff

AE (The Accidental Existentialist – the title of the best-seller i may one day get around to writing – if my life ever settles down (o: )

By: solidgoldcreativity

solidgoldcreativity — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 05:38:16 +0000

Hi neri. Yeh, amazing how we see the excuses as so valid. I like what you say about your awareness having increased, and for me too it now guides my life.

When I look at the difference learning about integrity has had on my life I think about my “default” position. Previously, I used to do the old cost/benefit analysis on all my obligations and commitments. My default position was always “what can I get away with not doing?” And when I look back I see I used to spend so much time and mental energy doing these calculations. Now, my default position is “I’m going to do what I committed to do” and I just accept it and don’t do any calculations. I tell you, I save heaps of time and mental energy. Sometimes I can’t do what I committed, or I just choose not to do it, but that’s now the exception. Thanks for the great comment, Nxx

By: neri

neri — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 13:15:32 +0000

What a good reminder !
I see the excuses so valid, the end result not honouring my word.
I must say, since the Landmark refresher, that has lessened or rather a better way of saying it is, the awareness has increased and once aware, action follows, in the sense of be, do, have.
My word sets the action in place and creates a result.
Funny how hard this sometimes becomes, I had to check my notes from the Landmark education to make sure I remembered. So revealing and shows what a journey takes place, once the commitment to honouring the word takes place, it becomes a value to guide my life.

By: solidgoldcreativity

solidgoldcreativity — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 13:00:53 +0000

Thanks, Thomas. I’ve gotten a lot from the paper; hope you do too.

By: Thomas Stazyk

Thomas Stazyk — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 05:48:49 +0000

This is one of the most thoughtful and valuable posts I’ve read in a long time. These things are so simple and important but have gotten totally lost. Thanks!

I’ve downloaded the paper and will give it some time!