You might remember me talking about a course I did last year with Landmark Education called the Self Expression and Leadership Program. The course runs for four months, one night a week and one Saturday a month, and during the course participants create a project in a community or field of interest that really matters to them. The promise of the course is:
you will be living life powerfully and living a life you love.
I’m now doing the course again, this time as a coach, which means I have five participants to coach and support for the program. I’d heard so many good things about coaching. One of my friends, for example, has coached on six programs which is some kind of record because she loves it so much, and because, during the program, she says,
my life just works.
So far, everything I’ve heard about coaching is true, and much more. It’s a bit of a cliché around Landmark to say this, but it really is a privilege to have five people “grant a listening” of me I’ve never previously experienced. They invite me into their lives and hopes and struggles with a simplicity and trust that moves and inspires me.
This thing about listening, and “a listening,” is key.
One of the premises of the course is that we’re all listened to in various ways, and we’re listened to in different ways in different communities. For example, you might be someone who is listened to as reliable and conscientious at work, as funny and laidback amongst your friends, and as charming and lazy at home.
There are all kinds of readymade listenings. For example, there is a certain listening of teenagers, of senior executives, of retired people, of elderly people, of renters, of people on social security benefits, of celebrities, and so on.
The course is about having participants get the listening of themselves in their various communities – or, to be more precise, to get the listening they have of themselves being listened to by the community – and to get that the listening, any listening, can be transformed.
And transforming the listening of oneself in a community that matters brings undreamt-of power, freedom and self-expression.
This undreamt-of realm, a realm of unpredictable and exponential results (salut, Havi), is being discovered by my five wonderful participants at this very moment. There is one story in particular I want to share (with his permission).
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One of my participants is a guy in his 20s. Before the program, he was playing in a few gigs as a musician, and had had some difficult times in the last five years, including a serious car accident.
When he started the program he created the possibility (possibility is another Landmark distinction) of being a filmmaker. He hadn’t been a filmmaker before, hadn’t even operated a camera. Nevertheless, he created himself from the outset as a filmmaker.
He also created his community project in the same field: he would make a film documentary of the history and people of the Australian rock scene.
Now for the last six weeks he has been out and about, talking to all kinds of people in the rock scene and film industry about his project. He’s so excited and lit up by his project he’s managed to get access to some big names in the rock scene, musicians who flourished before he was even born, musicians he reveres whom previously he would have thought light years away. In just six weeks, he’s lined up several of these names to be interviewed for his documentary, he’s been given free use of a famous inner city venue for the screening of the first part of his doco, and he’s lined up two A-list bands to play for free at the screening.
Something else is happening too. Last week he was offered his first paid gig as a filmmaker on a TV advert, and a couple of days later, another paid gig filming a rock industry event. He did the first gig two days ago; yet until the day before — when someone lent him a top-of-the-range camera with which to practice — he’d never even held a camera. As a result of the gig he was also given a media pass to a rock event held this weekend he’d been dreaming of attending as a lowly member of the public. And next week, he begins his second paid gig as a filmmaker.
I’m so inspired by him. He creates himself as a filmmaker and, voilà, he begins to be listened to as a filmmaker. By himself and his community.
When we discuss what’s showing up for him, his eyes sparkle and he shakes his head in wonder. “You know,” he said the other day, “it’s like what Chopper Read* said:
‘I’m a best-selling author, yet I can’t even spell.’
* A “celebrity” Australian criminal who’s written several books.
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