2016: Closing cycles


This post from Paulo Coelho is an extra good one at this time of year.

“Nobody plays this life with marked cards”

“Nothing is more dangerous than …”

“Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.”

“One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.

Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.

Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the ‘ideal moment.’

Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.

Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.”


Image: Sasaguri, Japan, Temple parishioners clean up the Reclining Buddha at the Nanzoin temple. Some 200 monks and visitors take part in the annual year-end dusting of the statue; Photograph: The Asahi Shimbun/Getty Images via The Guardian


8 thoughts on “2016: Closing cycles

  1. I didn’t make the connection until now (after reading your post). I watched a documentary on adopting a minimalist lifestyle and have been “off loading” so much “stuff” that I don’t need or want—things that I’ve clung to but serve no purpose. It’s often a struggle because of memories or sentiments or “self” that I’ve artificially attached to the things. The things aren’t “me.” Heck, I’m not “me.” It’s a very instructive, fascinating, humorous practice once you get realize that you don’t need items to prove your life has value.


    • haha, “Heck, I’m not ‘me'”. Well said as usual, Lorna. I’ve been cleaning out cupboards and throwing away notes and papers from university over 30 years ago! Next up, it’s the boxes of old cards and love letters! Maybe I don’t need them to “prove” I’m loved :)


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